How To: Dealing with Divorce

Divorce. 

It's not a nice occurrence, as I'm sure you know. However, divorce can really have a negative effect on people. Not just a 'oh no. I'm sad' but more of 'OMG! This is all my fault!' or 'I hate this parent!'. Obviously, people get divorced for a whole spectrum of reasons and how you deal with it will be different to someone else.

These tips are from my own personal experience, I am not a professional! 

My experience (briefly): My parents were married 25-ish years and got divorced when I was 6/7, I think. They separated due to arguing a lot.

Here goes....

Step One
Accept that it's NOT YOUR FAULT. Even if they've been arguing over you, it's their difference of opinion that is causing the disagreement and that will more than likely happen quite often (you may not have noticed it). Your parents separating could be the lesser of two evils!

Step Two
In the long run, your parents will be happier. Even if they are moping around, just let them know that they've got you support and when they feel it's alright- talk about what has happened and don't be afraid to ask questions. You deserve an honest answer!

Step Three
Write down how you feel. Keep it to or show someone you trust. They'll be able to sympathise/empathise and make you feel better. However, don't go telling everyone you can think of because you will find that people may not  understand how to react and just make you feel worse!

Step Four
Although having to decide who your going to spend holidays with is tough, do what you want to do and remember you'll probably get two of the same holiday with all of it's connotations!

Step Five
If you feel like crying- just do it!! Sometimes a good cry is just what you need! Then once it's over, splash your face with cold water and try to enjoy yourself.

Obviously, these are pointers that worked for me but they might not work for everyone. Find what works best for you and find what makes you smile, whether it be going out with friends or watching YouTube videos. It will always hurt, but you can't change anything- so embrace it instead!

I hope this can help.

Bye!!

:)